"Dear Old Ladies and Other People At WalMart This Morning,
I know you heard my son screaming throughout the store. He picked one toy after 15 minutes of searching, then decided he didn't want it. There was nothing else he could afford that he wanted. He pinched me and began screaming. My husband escorted him out of the store while you all were staring at them with wide open eyes. Literally, I seen all 10-15 of you giving them looks. One old lady said the right thing "At least he took him out of the store". In the parking lot he seemed to calm down. Then my husband let him go use his $5 on the crane machine. He asked his sister to use the machine for him. She didn't win anything. My son got really mad saying it was all her fault. He then began getting aggressive again with my husband. My husband was not abusing him when he was restraining him by the truck, he was just trying to keep him from hurting other people... although with the looks we received I think that's what some of you all were thinking. You see, he has Autism and Bipolar. That's something I felt like screaming at all of you onlookers today, but I am too quiet and you are all unlikely to understand anyways. Staring and sharing your comments doesn't really help the situation. Thank You nice worker at WalMart whose seen us many times for asking me how I was doing."
I know that the old ladies and other shoppers won't see that, but I just wanted to get it off my chest. I thought Honeybunches would do better with DH home, but it's not looking that way. :(
On the way to the truck Honeybunches was repeatedly trying to bite DH, who was holding his hands because he was also trying to pinch and hit him. Then Honeybunches was kicking and almost kicked DH in his you know where. That's why Dh restrained him against the truck while I opened the door. Inside the truck Honeybunches kept trying to hurt Daddy. He was screaming so loud because DH held his hands. He let go because Honeybunches promised to use calm his body. That lasted a couple seconds, then his hands swung at DH and he tried to bite again. DH held his hands all the way home. Honeybunches screamed all the way. I'm glad it's only a few minute ride! Once home, DH sat him in time out. Now he's outside playing again.
I know you heard my son screaming throughout the store. He picked one toy after 15 minutes of searching, then decided he didn't want it. There was nothing else he could afford that he wanted. He pinched me and began screaming. My husband escorted him out of the store while you all were staring at them with wide open eyes. Literally, I seen all 10-15 of you giving them looks. One old lady said the right thing "At least he took him out of the store". In the parking lot he seemed to calm down. Then my husband let him go use his $5 on the crane machine. He asked his sister to use the machine for him. She didn't win anything. My son got really mad saying it was all her fault. He then began getting aggressive again with my husband. My husband was not abusing him when he was restraining him by the truck, he was just trying to keep him from hurting other people... although with the looks we received I think that's what some of you all were thinking. You see, he has Autism and Bipolar. That's something I felt like screaming at all of you onlookers today, but I am too quiet and you are all unlikely to understand anyways. Staring and sharing your comments doesn't really help the situation. Thank You nice worker at WalMart whose seen us many times for asking me how I was doing."
I know that the old ladies and other shoppers won't see that, but I just wanted to get it off my chest. I thought Honeybunches would do better with DH home, but it's not looking that way. :(
On the way to the truck Honeybunches was repeatedly trying to bite DH, who was holding his hands because he was also trying to pinch and hit him. Then Honeybunches was kicking and almost kicked DH in his you know where. That's why Dh restrained him against the truck while I opened the door. Inside the truck Honeybunches kept trying to hurt Daddy. He was screaming so loud because DH held his hands. He let go because Honeybunches promised to use calm his body. That lasted a couple seconds, then his hands swung at DH and he tried to bite again. DH held his hands all the way home. Honeybunches screamed all the way. I'm glad it's only a few minute ride! Once home, DH sat him in time out. Now he's outside playing again.
DH believes Honeybunches probably needs a med adjustment... and soon! I said we'll wait and see how next week goes at school. If he's still struggling there too, then we might end up calling the pdoc for another appointment (We're scheduled in on May 2nd, but if he's not doing any better that might be too long) or calling Crisis Mobile Services to try and experience them for the first time.
DH came home yesterday after a 7 day phosp stay. He seems happy and to be doing well. He's now on Cymbalta, Geodon (Which went generic last month, with this being his first generic script), Remeron, Trazadone, and Neurontin. The mix seems to be working. We'll see after a few days goes by how he's doing then.
Honeybunches' Therapeutic Mentor got cancelled. Her boss called yesterday to let me know. She said that Honeybunches' was a "Safety issue". She said that M won't be involved with him anymore at all and won't be seeing him again. That makes me a bit heartbroken. I think a "Goodbye" visit and some closure for him would be in his best interest, but oh well... nothing I can do about it. I just hate how these places never are what they seem to be. It seems that they refuse to give help to the children who need them most. If he was "Neurotypical" then he wouldn't need services. Part of it was the mentor's fault in that she never had her cell phone when she'd go places with him. Here is the definition of what a Therapeutic Mentor is supposed to do from the website above:
"THERAPEUTIC MENTORING SERVICES (TM) are provided to youth (under the age of 21) in any setting where the youth resides, such as the home (including foster homes and therapeutic foster homes), and in other community settings such as school, child care centers, or respite settings. TM offers structured, one-to-one, strength-based support services between a therapeutic mentor and a youth for the purpose of addressing daily living, social, and communication needs. Therapeutic Mentoring services include supporting, coaching, and training the youth in age-appropriate behaviors, interpersonal communication, problem-solving and conflict resolution, and relating appropriately to other children and adolescents, as well as adults, in recreational and social activities. TM promotes a youth’s success in navigating various social contexts, learning new skills, and making functional progress in the community."
So obviously they were supposed to work with him to address his social needs, to train him about appropriate behaviors, problem solving and conflict resolution. I am heartbroken because they had a good bond. He's been with her for over a year now. They don't live up to what they are supposed to be doing. What type of conflict resolution and problem solving did they teach him? What, that if he does things he'll get kicked out of them for misbehaving? I hope that does not go over to his thoughts about school next week. If he has a day he doesn't feel he wants to be there he might use what he learned from the situation with M there! They did say they'll put him on the waiting list for a male mentor, but at this time they don't have any working there. They said another counseling agency in town does, but I am not interested in going there. We tried that in the past. They kicked him out of their counseling center a few years ago after he raged in the office (After I suggested it was not a good idea for him to go in alone but they told me it was policy). Then I believe they called DCF on us. No thanks! I am all set with that place and will never take my son there again!!!! I told Honeybunches that M could not come anymore because her boss said. I asked how he felt about that. He said "Fine" but he never really voices his feelings about anything. He has trouble finding the words. I just wonder if them ending his services with M is going to contribute to his negative behaviors more.
Oh get this... I talked to the Pastor of my church about Honeybunches. He asked if I ever thought what's going on with him could be spiritual. I said "Nope, never thought of that". He wants to try to pray with him on Sunday. We shall see how that goes lol, but I told him he could try. If only things were that easy. If all our children got the spirit would they be all better than? I guess we are going to have a meeting with pastor, his wife, the little girl who Honeybunches had up in the corner last Sunday and the Sunday School worker on Tuesday. (Honeybunches was not listening in Sunday School so the lady came to get me as she looked frazzled. When I went back to the room, Honeybunches had the little girl up in the corner. IDK if he did anything to the girl. Guess I'll find out on Tuesday. It seems like the father is blowing the whole thing out of proportion.)
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