Honeybunches school continues to say that "He's just not himself". Tuesday he had to be restrained at school. Then 1:1 aide had to escort him off the bus because he was having unsafe behaviors and refusing to sit. IDK exactly what else happened. The rest of the week he was okay at school, just "Out of sorts, not himelf and seemed tired". At counseling Wednesday night he presented with some behaviors we (Including his counselor) have not seen in a long while. They were talking about feelings. Honeybunches pulled out the legos and dumped them. He would not listen to pick them up. He pushed the computer chair into his counselor, picked up the computer and tried to throw it at her. The screen came off the monitor as it hit the floor, but did not look broken. She said she was "Scared he was going to seriously hurt her". She tried to call the front desk. I heard the receptionist call her name as she picked up the phone, but then she did not say anything else. I should have known that she needed help and went to check. She said Honeybunches hung up the phone on her. Then she yelled "Help" and the counselor in the next office had to leave her own client to see what was going on. She came down to the waiting area asking for me. I told the counselor maybe we should go in with him for a few weeks again. She said "Maybe". Honeybunches said he did not want to talk about feelings. The counselor said they were playing a game about feelings when he grabbed the legos and that situation began. Once home, he was fine. He knew he was not going on the computer, but said "Tomorrow I am going to have an awesome day so I can go on". :( His teacher asked me what I think was causing him to have these issues lately. The only things I can think of are that
1. He's mad or upset with me for going to school again and not being home until 4 on Tuesday and Thursdays. DH and I both agree that could be a possible option because he hates it when things change, especially when they change with me.
2. I noticed changes in him a few days after his diet changed back to eating chicken or turkey once a day and eggs on Saturdays. I wonder if it could be the diet changes in general or that eating the eggs, chicken and turkey again has increased the salt in his body, which decreased his Lithium level. Either way, I'm considering putting him back on a mostly Vegan diet with the exception of Ranch dip again because he did so much better on that.
Yesterday I tried getting his blood work done. For the first time in over three years of getting blood work every 3 months, Honeybunches refused. His favorite lab tech spent more than 20 minutes trying to convince him.
1st he did not like the green needle and wanted a blue one. Then hashbrowns from McD's were not a good enough bribe so I offered him a $. Of course he upped it to $2. Fine. Then he seen two different blue vials that were taller than the ones they usually use (Because they were testing for lead, cadmium, mercury along with the regular tests they usually run). He did not like the looks of those for whatever reason. Finally he right out refused saying "If I take my blood I won't be able to eat the good stuff anymore". So finally after 20+ minutes we gave up. We shall try again on Tuesday. At 110 lbs it is not really safe to use physical force to get him to take blood. I told him no more eating eggs, turkey or chicken until we get it. Maybe that will work. Reverse psychology. IDK but I hope he'll get it one of these times or IDK what we'll do about his Lithium. He could not stay on it without blood draws. I will just be hopeful and persistant that next time he'll do it. We'll bring Daddy to see if that makes a difference.
Princess's school called me Wednesday. They are getting a CHINS on my her because she keeps getting in trouble at school. Here is more info on a CHINS. She's been okay here. IDK what is going on with her there, but in a few weeks I will have to go to court for that. Of course because we live in a small town juvenile court is only on Thursdays... a day I have school. So I will have to miss school at least for the 1st one. I am debating fighting this whole thing because I don't agree she needs one, but then I'd have to miss more school and do community service to pay for the lawyer. I don't know where I'd find time for that lol. I am mad at the school dean for proceeding with this. Sometimes DCF comes along with CHINS. I thought it always did, but the Dean said it doesn't when they file it. I guess it's different then when a parent does. I think a lot of her issues are just hanging with the wrong crowd. I was considering school choicing her to another school, but then we'd have to transport her and the van is sick. I thought about enrolling her in the virtual online school, but they have a long waiting list. Sometimes I honestly wonder if they give her such a hard time because she's half black (Yes there is still racism in small town New England, although many think there isn't...) or possibly because she's Shnook's sister (Although the current Dean does not seem to remember who he is). I wish we could just move, but financially that's not an option right now. My mother mentioned to me this morning how she's concerned that Princess's "Always angry". I don't really see it. She has many reasons to be, because of Shnooks... I also know that living with Honeybunches and Daddy (Who also has BP and can be unstable sometimes) is not easy for her. I did an intake for her to see somebody at the counseling center Honeybunches goes to. The receptionist said that there are enough counselors there, that they should be able to get her in on Wednesdays close to the time he sees his. We've tried two other counseling centers for her. The 1st one said she was the most resiliant child they've seen and she did not need counseling. The 2nd one said because she did not talk, counseling was a waste of time. I have faith in the one Honeybunches's been going to since he was three. (Except for a few weeks when we tried to find somebody closer to home and the current one admitted she did not know how to handle him when he was unstable and suggested we find somebody with more experience. The other place kicked him out on the 2nd visit and she took him back.) Anyways, I don't think they'd give up on her so easily. At times I wonder if she has Bipolar or something going on. It's all in her genes.
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