IEP Classifications and the Word "Maybe"

My state's SPED Regulations state:

 Disability shall mean one or more of the following impairments:

 Intellectual Impairment - The permanent capacity for performing cognitive tasks, functions, or problem solving is significantly limited or impaired and is exhibited by more than one of the following: a slower rate of learning; disorganized patterns of learning; difficulty with adaptive behavior; and/or difficulty understanding abstract concepts. Such term shall include students with mental retardation.

 Emotional Impairment - As defined under federal law at 34 CFR §300.8(c)(4), the student exhibits one or more of the following characteristics over a long period of time and to a marked degree that adversely affects educational performance: an inability to learn that cannot be explained by intellectual, sensory, or health factors; an inability to build or maintain satisfactory interpersonal relationships with peers and teachers; inappropriate types of behavior or feelings under normal circumstances; a general pervasive mood of unhappiness or depression; or a tendency to develop physical symptoms or fears associated with personal or school problems. The determination of disability shall not be made solely because the student's behavior violates the school's discipline code, because the student is involved with a state court or social service agency, or because the student is socially maladjusted, unless the Team determines that the student has a serious emotional disturbance.

Honeybunches has met those IEP classifications for IDK how many years now.  When I was looking over his most current IEP that came in the mail yesterday, the words "Intellectual Disability" stood out to me.  IDK why, but my eyes could not come off them and those words won't leave my brain now.

His IEP was very well written.  I was impressed actually, that I don't have anything for them to change.  They included everything I wanted them to, including a quote about how they will try to maintain consistency with his aide as he transfers to the new school next year, how he'll ride the bus next year and how Summer Tutoring will be provided.  The objectives they wrote are very measurable.  He is delayed in most areas, but made "Remarkable progress" over the past year in all areas.  His FSIQ is "Borderline" (73).  Although "He's made tremendous gains in the classroom" he is still delayed.  For example, he is reading at a 2nd grade level. 

Although I am nervous about how the DSM-5 changes will affect him based on his Autism and Bipolar, I found this about Intellectual Development Disorder which IDK how I feel about.  It's not based on an IQ anymore it seems, or at least has a 5 point + or - leeway from what I am reading. 

DH and I were mentioning to each other a couple days ago, how as he's getting older his delays are becoming more noticeable (Especially his social ones).

The word "Maybe" has been causing a ton of issues in my house lately with Honeybunches.  The other day DH told him "Maybe" they'd go to the railroad tracks after school.  Then they didn't go.  He became very upset and told his teacher he was mad at Daddy for lying to him.  Yesterday my brother told him "Maybe" this morning they'd go to yard sales.  Today came and they didn't go.  Honeybunches was heartbroken about that.  His brain doesn't seem to understand "Maybe".

This time change has tricked his belly still.  I wonder if that will ever get on schedule again.  By 3:30 he acts like he's a starving child who will never eat again.  Dinner is at 4 pm.  Today I let him eat at 3:50 because he was getting irritable about being hungry.

We went to do a couple errands tonight.  DH, Princess, Honeybunches and I went to the grocery store 1st.  He did awesome in there.  Then we went to the pharmacy while DH put the groceries in the car and waited there for us.  Honeybunches was okay in there.  He wanted a toy that costed more money then he had.  I could not afford it so he was okay.  We looked around their little dollar section.  He didn't see anything so asked to go look in Family Dollar real quick.  This dollar store does NOT have everything for a dollar as some do.  He was looking around for about 5 minutes.  Then he decided he wanted something for $5 when all he had was $1.50.  Because we had to spend $720 to get our vehicle's exhaust, muffler and gas lines fixed along with getting it inspected this month I literally don't have more than $25 to my name right now.  I couldn't spend it.  He got frustrated.  He said "Sometimes you let me".  I tried explaining that I didn't have it.  He just didn't seem to understand.  He said "Fine I'll go home and go Hmmmt then and put my head under my pillow".  I said "Okay let's go home and go Hmmt.  Come on.  We are leaving."  I escorted him as I walked behind him with my hands on the edge of his shoulders in case he decided he wanted to see the items on the shelves go fly as he does sometimes when he is frustrated.  He asked me to let him go, but I thought it would be best to get him out of the store 1st.  I said "I will".   Being proactive worked.  He was going "Hmmmt" all the way through the store until we got to the front.  There were about 5+ people at the check out who all seemed to be staring at us.  I just focused on Honeybunches and escorted him out the front door.  Once outside I let his arms go.  He kept on with his "Hmmmt" until we got close to the car but things didn't progress any further.  He did a great job turning that one around, because once in the car he was fine.  When we got home he was fine too, until bath time which he gave a little fuss about but did comply with.  Well sort of. He didn't want to at first and actually was falling asleep in bed while fussing about how he didn't want one tonight. DH verbally cued him to get in.  He fussed but complied.  Honeybunches listens to him better.  I think it's the tone of his voice.  He needed assistance because he was so sleepy. The hesitation with bath-time seems to happen about 75% of the time lately.